A synthesis of my experience healing via massage. May it help you in your healing journey. Trauma First, here’s a definition of “trauma” that I like, from Resmaa Menakem’s My Grandmother’s Hands: Trauma is not a flaw or a weakness. It is a highly effective tool of safety and survival. Trauma is also not an event. Trauma is the body’s protective response to an event — or a series of events — that it perceives as potentially dangerous. This perception may be accurate, inaccurate, or entirely imaginary. In the aftermath of highly stressful or traumatic situations, our soul nerve and lizard brain may embed a reflexive trauma response in our bodies. This happens at lightning speed.